Marriage Monday: MBA Decision Thoughts from a Partner’s Perspective

Marriage: Moving to Pittsburgh // lgsmash.com

Post-Carnegie Mellon Snapchats

Going through this life change has been…an experience. There have been really big highs and really big lows for me. Throughout, I really wished I’d had a friend who’d been through a similar situation to be able to talk to someone who really understood where I was coming from and had been in my shoes as an independent, passionate woman balancing her own goals with the goals and ambitions of her partner. And if the internet is good for one thing, it’s cute cat videos. And connecting people. So this is my perspective on the experience thus far in case you are somehow stumbling upon my blog in looking for a friend who has stood in your shoes. 

This grad school journey was put in motion years ago; Alex always knew he wanted to get his MBA and 2 years ago, started preparing for the GMAT exam. It always felt far off in the future, something that I didn’t seriously keep on my radar. And truthfully, I tried to talk him out of grad school in the beginning. MBAs are a dime a dozen so in order to really stand out and have a solid return on our (expensive) investment, he was targeting the top MBA programs….none of which are located in Colorado and moving away from Colorado wasn’t high on my list of life priorities.

He narrowed his program search and applied to two schools first round, University of Washington in Seattle and Carnegie Mellon, each targeted for similar but different reasons. Soon after applying, he was notified that he’d been selected to come to campus for an interview with the admissions staff of each program, a critical component to the admissions process. The ball was rolling!

In November, we booked trips to Pittsburgh and Seattle on back-to-back weekends to check out the cities and schools. Each school is selling the student (and partner) on the program and city just as much as the student is selling the school on their qualifications. I found myself pleasantly surprised with Pittsburgh during our long weekend in November (fries on sandwiches and salads certainly helped) and really impressed with the Tepper MBA program.

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The following weekend we flew to Seattle. Seattle holds a special place in my heart as we spent our honeymoon there. The long weekend visiting just further affirmed that it’s a city I could see us living in and loving; it has the food and beer scene, is progressive, has interesting history and culture and many businesses – both corporate and startup. Not thinking about the MBA programs, Seattle had my heart.

Alex left both interviews feeling really great about the conversations he’d had and we each left Pittsburgh and Seattle feeling good about the fact that for 2 years, we could see ourselves living in either city.

We then waited for another 4 weeks for Alex to find out if he was accepted to either program and on the same day in December, he was notified that both schools had offered him admission. Woo!

Now it was tough decision time. Alex was extremely attentive to my thoughts and opinions throughout the process and about which program and city was the right choice for *US*, not just for him and I appreciated that but ultimately, this final decision was his to make. After much debate and consideration, Alex officially accepted his admission to Carnegie Mellon in January and the journey got THAT MUCH more real. Holy shit…Pittsburgh!

While extremely proud of my husband and the hard work he’s put in thus far, it was hard not to wonder, ‘well, what the hell am I going to do?’ I’m working a job that I really love and am passionate about and I wasn’t sure about the opportunity to work from home – whether it was even an option or if it was one I wanted. I knew I wanted to stay with Ibotta and I also knew I’d lose a lot by not being in the (very collaborative and fast moving) office. (I have so many more thoughts about this that I’ll cover in another post because, man, I’ve cried a lot of tears about this part.)

We talked through so many iterations of the next 2 years – one where I stayed in Denver for 2 years while he went to school, one where I stayed through the end of 2015 and then moved to Pittsburgh, one where I moved to Pittsburgh and was able to work remotely, one where I moved to Pittsburgh and wasn’t able to work remotely, one where I moved to Pittsburgh and wasn’t able to find a job right away, and on and on.

Ultimately, the right choice was for me to move to Pittsburgh with my husband in July.

For 4 months, I wished for a crystal ball to tell my what the right choice was, for Future Lynne to whisper in my ear and nudge me in the right direction. It’s a tough spot to feel like the choice is between supporting my marriage and husband and growing my own career and goals. Obviously these are not mutually exclusive and I can see that now but for many months, it felt that way and it sucked. A lot. My husband is the most important thing in my life but right now, work is a close second; it felt like no matter the decision I’d be compromising a huge piece of me.

In mid-April, after I’d decided that I’d be moving with Alex, I took a leap of faith and told my boss I’d be moving this summer and asked if there was an opportunity for me to work remotely. My boss and the leadership team approved my request so I’m extremely fortunate to be moving to Pittsburgh with the man I love while still being able to work in a job I love. With these key pieces in place, I’ve felt my stress start to bloom into excitement (slowly; there’s still a lot of sad!)

There’s still much to be worked out – both from a working-remotely perspective but also a holy-shit-we’re-moving-in-6-weeks perspective – but we’re riding the wave and making the most of the limited time left before this major life transition. The goal is to spend as much time with our friends and each other doing all the Colorado things we love one last time before we are officially Pittsburgers and he’s wrapped up in intense schoolwork.

So if you’ve found this post because you’re a partner (or potential partner) of an MBA student who feels the struggle of merging your life goals with your partner’s life goals, I feel you. And as much as I hated it when people told me this, you will find the right choice for you. And the right choice doesn’t mean you have to love it right away but you do have to find peace with your decision and embrace it as best as possible. I’m still trying to find peace and let go of the ‘what ifs’ and the career FOMO but I know that this chapter will shape me in ways I’m not yet expecting. I know this path is the best one for our family and I’m looking forward to this next chapter in our lives.

Teddy Roosevelt once said, ‘Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain or difficulty,’ so I’m taking his word for it. This journey is worth doing!

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And…We’re Moving to Pittsburgh!

Moving to Pittsburgh! // lgsmash.com

This fall, Alex will start Carnegie Mellon’s MBA program so in mid-July, we’ll be packing up our apartment and moving east. The big move is still a few weeks down the road and we’re still working out the final logistics but I know these next 6 weeks are going to fly by.

It’s an incredibly exciting opportunity and, while it’s very bittersweet to leave Colorado, Pennsylvania will be a fun, new adventure. I know don’t too much about Pittsburgh or Pennsylvania but am excited to explore a new part of the country and add a new chapter to our story.

Much more to come as there’s been much going on ‘behind the scenes’ of this little blog that I’d like to capture for my own memory and share for the (possible) benefit of someone else’s crossroads experience.

Here’s to soaking up as much as Colorado in the next few weeks as possible and taking notes on any Pittsburgh connections, tips and ‘must see/must do’!

 

Local Love: Chuck & Don’s Pet Store

While not 100% local, this pet store has a 100% local feel and 100% Colorado attitude.

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

Chuck & Don’s is a pet retailer where the staff truly cares about your pet and their unique needs. They are passionate about pets and it’s obvious from the second you walk into the store.

In the hour I was visiting with Jess, the store manager, the store associates recognized the majority of the pets that came through the door and made a point to meet any new furry friends. They knew Philly immediately and even commented on her size in real life vs. blog photos (she’s much smaller in real life than she appears in photographs). They’d done their research and knew we liked running and camping together!

A bit about Chuck and Don

Chuck & Don’s started in Minnesota when when real life friends, Chuck Anderson and Don Tauer, ran a dog kennel and decided to start selling food, too, after many customer requests. The pet food business took off and the pair decided to open retail stores. There are now stores in Minnesota, Wisconsin and Colorado.

What you can expect when you visit

The entire staff knows their stuff. These are not people who are just looking to make a paycheck; these are passionate people who care about animals and are incredibly knowledgable on all things pet.

With Jess, we started with the various types of food and their benefits while keeping Philly’s health in mind the whole time. As a pup who runs with me a few days a week and loves hiking and camping, I learned that Philly should be eating a food with higher protein. It was truly an ‘ah-ha!’ moment for me…of COURSE my dog needs higher protein food if she’s running around regularly. Just like I eat more protein after a workout, my pup’s body benefits from protein in her food too.

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

All pet food at Chuck & Don’s is high-quality and full of all natural ingredients. No processed or filler food.

A really cool thing that Chuck & Don’s does regarding food: after learning about your pup’s needs, they’ll recommend a food for you to try. If you take it home and your dog doesn’t like or has negative reactions to the food, Chuck & Don’s will happily swap it out for you until you find a food that works. They care more about your pet being happy and healthy than they do about selling an extra bag of pet food. And all those opened bags of food? They get donated to a local shelter. How cool is that?!

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

Chuck & Don’s also sources products from local companies to their market like Zuke’s, based out of Durango, CO and making treats designed for the outdoor dog.

We then talked about exercise and play time and pet’s needs during specific seasons (booties for hiking to protect their sensitive pads) and how to best acclimate your dog into running with you. Just like people, pups should gradually add distance to avoid injury.

Jess also reviewed the giant shelving unit of toys, too, as they literally have something for everyone. Have a dog with limited eye sight? There’s a mint-scented toy to help the dog find it. Need a chew toy that keeps a pup interested without the squeaking? There’s a ball with a squeaker in it that only dogs can hear. Literally. They have any and everything your pet’s heart could desire!

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

So many toys!

As we concluded the walkthrough, Jess told me what we discussed is exactly the orientation she goes through with new customers; she learns about the pet’s health and habits and makes recommendations based on those observations to ensure you and your pet have the best experience both in the store and in your daily lives.

The team at Chuck & Don’s sent me home with a massive basket of food, treats, toys and gear hand-picked for Philly to try; homegirl is loving the special attention!

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com A puppy donut for breakfast? But of course! Another local brand, Pawsitively Gourmet is based out of the Denver Tech Center and makes these cute donuts + cookies. See also: these adorable summer-themed cookies!

Philly really, really loves the food she’s tried with lamb in it. She’s tried the AvoDerm Lamb and Brown Rice first and gobbled it up first when mixed into to her normal food. This week, I’ve been feeding her NOW FRESH Red Meat Recipe mixed with her normal food and last night, she was spitting out her normal food to eat NOW FRESH first. Duly noted, Philly!

I’ll continue to review and share my thoughts on the other items included once we’ve had a chance to use – like this collapsable water bowl that will certainly come in handy this summer!

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

One of my personal favorites from the gift basket is this collar that comes with a matching leash. So perfect for a Colorado pup!

Local Love: Chuck and Don's Pet Store // lgsmash.com

I learned so much during my visit with Jess and the Chuck & Don’s staff; I knew just the basics of what is important when caring for my dog so learning about the various food options available and ways to keep my dog healthy (like to give her a dried salmon skin roll for Omega-3s!) was really eye-opening and I’ve definitely changed my thinking about how I feed and care for my pup.

And I’d be remiss to not mention that Chuck & Don’s loves cats and small pets too! So, cat people, don’t think this place isn’t for you too – the team knows just as much about your pets, too.

Giveaway Time!

Chuck & Don’s wants to give you a gift card to experience their store for yourself! I have a $25 gift card for a randomly selected winner. Because they currently are not selling online, this giveaway is open to friends near a store in Minnesota, Wisconsin and Colorado (locations here).

I’m running the giveaway through the Rafflecopter widget below so follow the prompts to enter! Giveaway closes Monday, June 1 at midnight.
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Disclosure: Chuck & Don’s gifted me a very thoughtful basket for Philly however, all opinions are my own. 

In The Spirit of Spontaneity

Spontaneous isn’t a word I’d use to describe myself. I’m generally a person who likes to ‘follow the rules’ and act on safe, benign impulses. Like picking a crazy color of nail polish. (I am struggling to think of the last time I was brazenly impulsive before this weekend!) But these past few weeks have been hit with streak of spontaneity.

Last weekend, after (not much) peer pressuring, I found myself at a tattoo shop getting my nose pierced.

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I’d been considering getting my nose pierced for quite some time but wasn’t sure I was gutsy enough to actually follow through. After hearing that it doesn’t really leave a mark on my nose if I decided to take it out in the future, I was sold. Heidi, Paige and I stopped in a local shop in Boulder during the Blend Retreat and Heidi and I walked out with new jewelry in our noses. (A true ‘safe’ spontaneous decision = if I hate my spontaneous nose piercing, I can take it out with limited repercussions.)

Following up that spontaneous weekend decision is another slightly spontaneous activity! This weekend, we’re dropping Philly off at her favorite kennel, leaving work early and hitting the road for Salt Lake City! Our good friend Alex will be checking out the city as a potential future home so we decided a quick 8 hour drive to spend a few quality days with our friend was the right choice. It’s a long drive but I’m excited about the micro-advenutre (despite the rain in the forecast in SLC).

Catch ya later, Denver!

#ORInsightLab Review: Women’s Ferrosi Hoody

Disclosure: I’m participating in Outdoor Research’s (OR) #ORInsightLab to help test gear and offer feedback. This shell jacket was provided to me at no cost but, as always, opinions are my own. You can find my other OR Insight Lab reviews here.

ORInsightLab Ferosi Hoody //lgsmash.com

The past few weeks have been unusually gray and rainy in Denver. While many people are grumbling about living in Seattle, I’ve enjoyed the change of pace and know our state could use the rain (but wonder why this moisture couldn’t have graced us a few months earlier for ski season!). I’ll admit it’s a bit weird to be 45* a few days before Memorial Day but summer will show up soon.

The misty rain has given me a great opportunity to put the Outdoor Research Ferrosi Hoody to the test with wet pre- and post-work running in Denver.

#ORInsightLab Ferosi Hoody // lgsmash

The first thing I noticed about this jacket is how lightweight it is. At only 11 oz., this jacket is super light and incredibly comfortable to wear; it also fits into the tiny little spaces in a very full pack for a climbing or backpacking trip.

I also really love the stretch and flex this jacket has. I expected the nylon/spandex body to be flexible but I really appreciated how stretchy the jacket actually is. While it’s been too rainy to go climbing, I’m really excited to climb outside in the coming weeks with this jacket

ORInsightLab Ferosi Hoody //lgsmash.com

This weekend at the 2015 Blend Retreat in Boulder, I wore the Ferrosi jacket on 2 day hikes – first, in the morning when it was a bit chilly as the sun warmed the air and second, when it was windy on top of the Flatirons trail as weather began blowing in. In both instances, I appreciated how the Ferrosi performed, keeping me warm but not overheated – the Ferrosi jacket is super breathable!

The upcoming weeks (er, weekends) bring with it exciting adventure plans – a road trip to Salt Lake City, Colorado rock climbing and 14er peak bagging – all of which are perfect for this lightweight, durable soft shell jacket. Count on an end-of-summer update for this jacket, too, when I’ll share exactly how this jacket held up.

Cairn Jumping // lgsmash.com

Overall thoughts? Really digging this lightweight softshell jacket. The breathability of this jacket to help keep you from overheating when exerting effort in windy or rainy weather is much appreciated!

Buy it: Women’s Ferrosi Hoody / outdoorresearch.com (or at REI here) <– not affiliate links

And, just for fun, a jumping gif in a cairn field in Boulder.

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Sponsored Post: No More Smelly Gear With HEX Performance

You know that really funky smell your athletic gears acquires – sometimes even after you’ve washed it? In our apartment, we have lots of smelly outdoor and athletic wear that, despite washing with a name brand ‘sport’ detergent, we can’t shake the funk. In particular, I had a pair of putrid synthetic climbing shoes in desperate need of a wash that truly rid the shoes of their smell. (I promise I don’t smell in real life…that much!)

HEX Performance reached out recently to ask if I’d be interested in trying their new suite of cleaners and I readily opted in. Per the brand, HEX Performance has developed the first and only system designed specifically to clean and protect today’s performance gear and apparel. Products include: Ultra+Dual Action Gear Wash, Power+ Laundry Detergent, and On Demand+ Spray and Go. HEX was developed by major league lacrosse player, Drew Westervelt, a professional athlete who knows first-hand how tough it can be to get those odors out of apparel and gear; you know if a major league lacrosse player can get a funky smell out of his gear, the stuff is legit.

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I’ve only used the Power+ Laundry Detergent thus far but already I’m impressed with the output. I washed a load of towels Philly sleeps on and bath towels that have that ‘old towel’ smell. One load later and the towels came out smelling…clean! Not like the febreez-y smell of the detergent I use now, there was a noticeably absent scent at all.

Next, I decided to go big or go home; I washed my climbing shoes. Because they are synthetic and not leather, I felt comfortable throwing these in the washing machine with cold water and Power+ detergent. When I pulled the shoes out of the machine, I was so excited to have clean, not smelly climbing shoes! Success!

I’m excited to experiment with the other products too, especially the On Demand Spray. This will be perfect to ‘spot clean’ and treat my climbing shoes after a morning workout or yoga mat after a particularly sweaty class. I’ll provide a more comprehensive review once I’ve used all products a number of times.

Wanna try HEX for yourself? HEX Performance will be at all Targets in Colorado and Georgia this weekend demoing the product and handing out samples and discounts. Swing by your local Target on Saturday, 5/16 from 11 a.m. – 4 p.m. to check out HEX in person!

Disclosure: I was compensated for this post and provided product by HEX Performance. As always, all opinions are my own.

Currently… (May)

Currently (May) // lgsmash.com

…working lots of hours; rewarding hours but lots of hours, nonetheless

…feeling very sleepy in the mornings this week (almost enough to consider drinking coffee again. Almost.)

…drawing on my snapchats

…snuggling my puppy who has decided to start hopping up on the bed (yay!!)

…learning how to use a fancy pants camera!

…(trying) to meticulously plan out my summer (what do they say about ‘best laid plans’?)

…loving being part of a book club (keeping me accountable to *actually* finish a book)

…hitting up the REI Anniversary Sale to buy myself beautiful new climbing shoes

…looking forward to hanging out with some of my favorite BLENDS this weekend

Thoughts on Hosting Visitors

Echo Lake, Mt. Evans // lgsmash.com

This weekend, my father-in-law scheduled a long Denver layover on his way out to San Diego for work and we spent 2 full days with him. Alex and I stressed about the right activities to do, wanting to make sure his visit was THE BEST as it was his first time out to see us and his first time to Denver as a visitor – he’d previously only traveled through Denver for work.

We ended up spending 2 terrific days just being together. We showed him our favorite restaurants, the parks we love, the gym where we climb, our old apartment, where our offices are. We ate great food and marveled how much construction is happening around Denver (SO MUCH!) and drove into the mountains to just be in fresh, mountain air for a few minutes before dropping him off at the airport.

So often, we forget that visitors don’t care about DOING ALL THE THINGS! They just want to spend time with the people they love, glimpsing into the lives we live in a city far away.

In a season of chaos and uncertainty in my life, it felt grounding to just BE and not DO. To just soak in the slow time together, catch up on hilarious stories and share our city with family.

FMS Screening at Therapydia Denver

[DISCLOSURE: Therapydia offered me a free Functional Movement Screening (FMS) in exchange for my honest review. All opinions and thoughts below are my own.]

It’s no secret that with my job change last year, I found myself with a lot less free time and a lot less motivation to get out and exercise. In recent months, I’ve made it a high priority to fit in a work out – climbing before work, a run at lunch or after work, longer walks with Philly. When the fine folks at Therapydia Denver reached out and asked if I was interested in a Functional Movement Screening to assess current limitations or deficiencies to avoid injury, my interest was piqued. I know I’m not in prime fitness shape so I was interested in an analysis of where I could focus on improving.

I scheduled an appointment and visited Therapydia Denver before work on a Wednesday morning. The office is located just outside downtown proper (Lincoln and 8th, for the locals) and is nestled inside a gym.

FMS Screening - Therapydia Denver // lgsmash.com

When I arrived, I met Casey McNitt, Clinic Director, and Josh Hardy, Physical Therapist. I sat down with Casey for a few minutes before we started the screening to chat about my background, his background and what makes Therapydia different.

The first thing I loved about Therapydia is that both Casey and Josh are active – Josh even climbs at Movement, like I do! Because they’re active, they understand the passion athletes and active people have for recovering from an injury or getting stronger/better in their fitness.

Casey has also worked with NFL and NHL teams in preventative and rehab roles – so he knows what he’s talking about! Both Casey and Josh have significant experience but talk to patients in language we non-medical-world folks can understand. Through my many knee surgeries over the years, I’ve definitely encountered my faire share of PTs who did not speak in easy-to-understand lingo so Casey and Josh’s approach is much appreciated.

After our chat, it was time to start the screening!

The objective of the FMS screening is to identify potential areas of concern that could lead to injury. The whole process took 20 minutes and involved me doing a series of movements while Casey recored my ‘points’ based on how cleanly I was able to perform the movement. These movements measured flexibility and strength of key muscle groups; the lower the points I earned, the more prone to injury I am in that muscle group.

FMS Screening - Therapydia Denver // lgsmash.com

As I completed the movements, Casey explained the points I earned for each and recorded it in the FMS online system. At the end of the session, Casey reviewed my results with me on his iPad, highlighting exercises I can do to improve a few key areas (glutes and back/core strength, overall flexibility) and let me know that I’d receive detailed results through an email.

FMS Screening - Therapydia Denver // lgsmash.com

I’ve definitely made it a point to start incorporating the exercises after a run and I’m focusing on stretching before and after any exercise where I usually jump straight into the activity and jump straight out when I’m done.

For me, the FMS reinforced my need to make strength training – no matter how minor – part of my regularly scheduled fitness routine. I’m not as spry and bendy as I used to be and doing the same ol’ same ol’ exercises won’t yield effective results. I need to build and maintain a muscular base if I expect to get any better at climbing/running/backpacking/etc.

If you’re a Denver athlete or fitness enthusiast, I’d highly recommend the FMS screening with Dr. Casey and the Therapydia Denver team to learn about where you can improve your strength and flexibility.

Currently…(April)

…sharing a Day in the Life video I made with SnapChats! Sadly, the time stamp did not save on the video clips so I had to settle for two different fonts.

…trying on bridesmaid dresses getting excited about upcoming weddings!

…setting aside time to read pages of a real book each day.

…planning a summer road trip with my most favorite person to a few really awesome places.

…making 30+ ‘active’ minutes every day a high priority (thank you, FitBit!)

…remembering my One Little Word of 2015 and years past (light! focus! perspective! Funny how these previous words still weave their message into my life).

…eating donuts for Friday breakfast.

…smiling.